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Attachment-based therapy for dating and relationships in Encino and Los Angeles, California
Dating can activate some of our deepest attachment patterns — especially if you find yourself overthinking, fearing rejection, pulling away when things get close, or repeating relationship dynamics that leave you feeling anxious or disconnected. Attachment-based therapy for dating & relationships helps you understand why these patterns show up and how to build more secure, emotionally grounded connections. If dating feels confusing, discouraging, or emotionally intense, therapy can help you approach relationships with more clarity and confidence.
You may be seeking Attachment-based therapy for dating & relationships because…
You’re overthinking text messages, needing constant reassurance, or fearing abandonment
You tend to pull away or lost interest when a new relationship starts to feel vulnerable or emotionally close
You find yourself repeating the same relationship pattens
You tend to find yourself attracted to emotionally unavailable people
You feel lost in the sea of swiping left & right on dating apps
You want a secure and healthy relationship, but feel stuck
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How Attachment-Based Therapy Works
Attachment-based therapy begins with exploring your attachment style — the patterns you developed early in life to stay connected and feel safe in relationships. Together, we look at how those patterns show up in dating today: how you respond to closeness, uncertainty, conflict, mixed signals, or vulnerability.
You may notice anxious attachment patterns (overthinking, seeking reassurance, fearing abandonment) or more avoidant patterns (pulling back when things feel emotionally intense). Often, people experience a mix of both. The goal isn’t to label you — it’s to understand the protective strategies your nervous system learned and how they’re impacting your relationships now.
From there, we focus on building a more secure attachment with yourself. That includes strengthening emotional regulation, developing self-trust, setting healthy boundaries, and learning how to soothe anxiety without relying solely on external reassurance. As your internal foundation becomes steadier, dating feels less reactive and less driven by fear.
Over time, this work helps you shift long-standing patterns — from chasing emotionally unavailable partners to choosing reciprocal ones, from over-functioning to allowing mutual effort, from self-doubt to clarity. Instead of repeating familiar cycles, you begin making intentional relationship choices that align with your values and long-term goals.
The aim isn’t just to “date better.” It’s to feel secure within yourself so that the relationships you build are grounded, stable, and emotionally safe.
Attachment-based therapy for dating & relationships can help you…
Understand how your attachment style can impact your relationships
Build a secure attachment with yourself
Learn how to become more familiar and comfortable with secure relationships
Break patterns and narratives about yourself and dating
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Attachment-based therapy focuses on how early relational experiences shape the way you connect in dating and relationships today.
Your attachment style influences how you handle closeness, conflict, uncertainty, and rejection. In therapy, we explore these patterns and help you build a more secure, grounded way of relating — both to yourself and to others.
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Anxious attachment often shows up as overthinking texts, fearing abandonment, needing reassurance, or feeling emotionally preoccupied in dating.
You may feel intense highs and lows in relationships or become highly sensitive to changes in communication. Therapy helps you understand these reactions and build stronger emotional regulation so dating feels less overwhelming.
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If you lose interest when someone becomes emotionally available, feel suffocated by closeness, or struggle to fully open up, you may be experiencing avoidant attachment patterns.
Attachment-based therapy helps you explore what vulnerability brings up for you and develop the capacity for emotional closeness without feeling trapped or overwhelmed.
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Yes. When you understand your attachment style and strengthen your internal sense of security, your choices naturally shift.
As you build self-trust, emotional regulation, and clearer boundaries, you’re more likely to choose partners who are emotionally available and aligned with your values — rather than repeating familiar but unfulfilling dynamics.
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